Adjusting to any kind of change in your life can be very stressful. The one thing I have realized is when it comes to any kind of change is to keep it on an optimistic level. To do that I stay calm by meditating and keep it all in focus. I was discussing with a friend about how I was very hesitant about a change I would soon have to make in my life. My friend told me that almost over twenty years ago she had bought a brand new car and it was parked in an alley next to her house.

She exited her house just at that moment she saw an old VW bus scrape the front fender of her car. As she continued to tell me what occurred she informed me she was trying to stay calm and realized she had to meditate and get centered on the situation. She went on to tell me that the driver stepped out of his car, threw his hat on the ground, and then hung his head, holding it in his hands. She realized that he clearly didn't have the money to pay for the damage to her car and he almost started to cry.

My friend continuing to meditate to keep things in perspective, walked up to the man and you could tell he was very nervous and expected her to say something like: What a jerk, Can you not see, or just something so mean that he would just feel awful. As she walked up to the man she merely said don't worry about the scratch and to have a nice day. He could not believe what he was hearing. He began to cry tears of happiness and hugged my friend. He then ran to his wife who was in the car curious about what they were going to do and he hugged his wife and introduced his wife to my friend.

As they were talking my friend informed them how she used meditation to keep as relaxed as possible because she had short fuse in the past that caused her a lot of problems. The couple and my friend became very close friends. Now it is 20 years later and the man has since passed away and his wife is in assisted living my friend still visits the woman every week and still talks about the day they had met.

Using meditation will certainly put into perspective the situation you are in and to not act on a whim, but to deal with whatever predicament it is you are in so you will act responsibly. After my friend and I talked I thought how I could adjust to the transformation I would have to make by optimistic thinking and could turn a bad situation into something that can have a very special significance in my life. After our talk I went home and began using meditation to relax myself and now I feel more positive about me and my life.

Tags: alternative medicine, goal setting, stress management